Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?

The Basic Rules for Change Actions

 

The following 4 basic rules fir change actions should always be applied for all change instances, activities, events, interactions and sessions when either dealing with or guiding an individual with regards to his/her personal self-change, self-empowerment and psyche management quest.

RULE 1

ALWAYS DESCRIBE THE ISSUE

Any change decision, session or any kind of interference, must not end until definite “next steps” has been identified and clarified. Thus, all participants should know what has happened, is happening and what should happen next.

RULE 2

ASSIGN THE ISSUE

All issues, task and assignments shall be owned and dealt with at the proper level and within context. Thus, individual responsibility within group accountability. Therefore the session or interaction do not end, unless each participant knows exactly what his/her responsibilities and expected contributions are.

RULE 3

INSURE THE ISSUE

Every issue dealt with during a session and\or activity should be covered by one of the following, as determined by the context, dynamic or the circumstances…

  • First a recommendation (advise), and then expected ACTION or
  • First an expected ACTION, then advise (corrective recommendations).

Thus, to what extent should one allow for a educated “trail-and-error implementation” and gaining of experiences regarding the issues as discussed during a the session.

RULE 4

CHECK ON THE ISSUE

Initiate, establish and maintain a reliable follow-up system for regular checkup’s (monitoring & evaluation) events. Let all participants involved realize that at some stage, they will be held accountable for their choices, decisions and actions.

Following and applying the above basic rules of change, ensure that facilitation sessions and/or activities are sourcing from “consensus conduct” to deliver productive outcomes or results more efficiently, and with much less frustration, resentment, aggression and unnecessary unproductive conflicts.