Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?

Objectives and Goals


Sourcing from your Change Destiny  and within the parameters determined by your SWOT-analysis, change objectives (short/medium term) and goals (long term) need to be identified and clearly defined. You need to identify which objectives need to be obtain over a period, to gradually achieve your change goal(s) in the end.

When you formulate the objectives that should achieve a goal (e.g. I want to establish I a healthier lifestyle), steer clear from vague objectives such as… “I want to eat less junk food“. Rather, specify what foods to eat, and what foods to avoid. For example… “I will no longer eat fast food from places like McDonald’s or Kentucky Fried Chicken. Instead I will eat home-cooked meals that combine vegetables, lean proteins and unrefined carbohydrates“.

With clearly define change objectives, it is much easier to establish and sustain an accountable monitoring cycle, which forms an integral part of any change project, to determine if you are still “moving” towards your goal.

Another aspect, regarding goal and objectives (i.e. target) composition, is that – under most circumstances – it isn’t such a great idea to try and change by going “cold turkey” with your goal. Most of the time, going “cold turkey“, leads to plenty of failures, which in the end will do you more harm than good. Rather create incremental objectives, that will allow you to work steadily towards your goal. Normally, implementing changes “cold turkey” isn’t a very realistic, nor sustainable objective. For example…

Let’s say you’re a smoker who averages 40 cigarettes a day. And as part of your “healthier lifestyle” goal, you want to eliminate the smoking habit completely. Important though, incremental objectives will only be successful in obtaining your goal, when it is accompanied by personal responsibility, self-discipline and a motivated self-empowerment quest. But for now, just stick to the following incremental objectives to obtain your goal…

  • 20 cigarettes each day for weeks 1 to 3
  • 10 cigarettes each day for weeks 4 to 6
  • 5 cigarettes each day for weeks 7 to 8
  • 1 (or less) cigarettes each day for week 9
  • 0 cigarettes each day for for week 10 and beyond.

Obviously and depending on circumstances, your numbers will vary. Plus, there will be times when you’ll fail in your objective, which then requires corrective actions. However, the key here is to make gradual changes in your life. Making a change in a gradual manner, gives your body and mind a chance to adapt, adjust and get used to the new introduced circumstances.