You can have anything you wish for in your life, but when your sense of self-worth or happiness exclusively DEPENDS on having it, then you are attached to it. Whoever or whatever you are attached to can manipulate you and you are no longer free to make decisions and take actions as you like. You easily become a puppet on a string.
Life around us is an energetic kaleidoscope of “magnetic fields“. Like attracts like, some repel and others has no influence at all. The interaction and exchange between the “magnetic fields” takes place continuously. However, there are certain people or groups of people in this kaleidoscope of “magnetic fields” that are corded together. They are drawn to each other (often in a negative sense) and this “cord” may bind and trap them. They will pull and tug at each other, mentally, emotionally and physically and are often unaware of the effect they have on one another.
These “cords” or “magnetic traps” quite often formed between people that have unresolved issues between them. Each time when we as humans “transmit” thoughts or words of anger, hurt, jealousy, envy, need, hate or aggression to someone, we starts to weave a tiny thread which attaches us to them. An occasional thought will dissolve, but when we consistently send negative feelings out, the tiny threads will start to form cords or ropes. This will remain, trap and bind you together until they are released, in other words being resolved or place into the proper perspective.
The rule of attachment does not only apply to people. We can also be attached to things, feelings or objects. Feelings such as greed, pride, status, need and envy can send unhealthy attachment “cords” to objects such as expensive cars, mansions, high profile jobs and enormous bank accounts. This is why we often refer to the trappings of wealth, because you do not enjoy being wealthy, but is manipulated by wealth.
You can have a beautiful home, drive an expensive car or have a high status job. However, when you NEED to live in that beautiful house, drive that car or follow that occupation to have status, security or self-worth, it becomes an attachment. Your are emotionally tied with “ropes” to the house, car or job and you are “trapped” and a puppet on a string until you change your attitude.
You can enjoy a wonderful and harmonious relationship (personal and work). Neediness and a negative dependency, however, bound you with the result that you are tugged to and fro emotionally. Codependent relationships enmesh (entangled cords) your emotions so that it is difficult to be objective about such relationships, or to leave or change the situation.
Basically attachments is conditional acceptance, restrictive, difficult to resolve, release or to let go. Attachment must mean or be something beneficial to you, once you lose an attachment you, do not mourn, BUT are devastated and find it impossible to “pick-up” the peace’s again. You lose your focus on life, are panic stricken and the result is either unnecessary anxieties, fears, stress or ultimately severe depression.
When you want to break free from the bondage’s of attachments, you need to forgive. Forgiveness dissolves and resolves unresolved issues and restore a proper perspective in life. This sets us free to move on. When you forgive someone and let go completely of what has happen in the past, you free yourself from the trappings of shame and guilt that binds you to certain memories and emotions that holds you back from the person that you could be. When you are ready to forgive yourself for your past, you resolve this restricting “cords” and the memory loses it’s negative impact.
For example… A manager and employee have been stuck in a unhealthy relationship for years. Each grumbled and complained about the other. Both were hostile. Both want to break away from the relationship, but never quite had the courage. Both were unable to forgive each other and themselves for the circumstances. Until one day the employee just decided to REALLY forgive himself and let go of the guilty feelings. When going back to work the next week, quite an interesting thing happen. Because he was detached and free from his own emotional bondage, he started to perceive the manager differently. Without the constant negative emotions battering him, he start to recognize the manager’s sense of humour, his enthusiasm for the work, his compassion for others and dedication to his people. The relationship between the two changed completely, from a emotional charged relationship to a more matured and accommodating relationship.
In order to free yourself from the manipulative influences of attachments, detached yourself from it by, first forgiving yourself and secondly forgiving others.