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The Law of Resistance


PICTURE YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING… A little girl setting out a tea party in her playhouse. She called her brother, inviting him to the tea party. He arrives at the door and she closed it and would not allow him in. A struggle (conflict) ensued and the little girl becomes upset, angry and tired to prevent her brother from entering, despite her initial invitation.

Paradoxical, contradictory, conflicting, inconsequential and laughable. But quite often we wish for something (calling it towards us) BUT when it arrive,  we do not REALLY want it, and try to push it away again. The human mind is and will always remains a mystery. In real life this is quite often the case and – once again – emphasize the delicately of the magnetic field surrounding every individual. Thus, sending out a “broadcast” to obtain something and then try to repel it again, because it does not fit harmoniously into our present magnetic field (i.e. comfort zone or umwelt) is known as the rule of resistance (also manifesting as the Newton’s Cradle Trap). Therefore, inviting something that we do not really desire.

 Why does the rule of resistance effect us, and why do individuals often invite (consciously) and then repel or push away (sub-consciously or unconsciously)?

Many individuals evoke the law of resistance without even being aware of what they are doing. Seen in its most simplistic form, your unconscious mind work exactly like a computer does. You cannot tell a computer NOT to bring up a certain file for it cannot accept negative instructions. When you click on a file, the computer will assume that you DO want the file and bring it up.

Your conscious mind can discriminate between a negative instruction and a positive one, but your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference. While you are concentrating hard on something, your unconscious mind may receive the message, when negative, disregard the negative and execute the instruction. Much like you clicking on a file that you do not want to open, the computer interpret as display the file, regardless.

For example… When a person is hard at work at a project and his/her manager/supervisor gives the instruction: “Don’t you dare get it wrong“. And because the conscious mind is occupied with something else, and cannot interpret the instruction, the unconscious mind do receive the message and interpret it as “get it wrong“. Illogical, but how often do you get the opposite effect, despite all your conscious efforts? This happens because your unconscious mind has a much stronger influence on your “magnetic field” and “broadcasts“.

Silly as it may seem, but when you think a particular thought long and often enough, it may filter through to your unconscious mind and evoke a reaction that you yourself do not expect. For example… (psychosomatic illnesses) Some people have illnesses in their lives, just because they resist illness. They continuously think (consciously) “I do not want to be ill, like such an such“, the instruction “want to be ill” filters constantly into you unconscious mind. Your “computer” looks for a programme/file/application that will make you ill.

The same principle applies in all spheres of your life, both work and personal. Phrases and words such as don’t, can’t, won’t or not.. tends to invoke the law of resistance, and getting something that you do not desire.

To resist negative circumstances, due to the law of resistance, is no use. Because you waste valuable time and energy on struggling with thoughts patterns such as “I don’t want to be ill, I don’t want to be poor or I don’t want to be a failure“.


This is always the underlying principle with regards to positive thinking and motivational courses. Change the instruction to your unconscious mind to “I want to be healthy, I am rich and I am a success.One thing to remember though… Change do not take place overnight it may take a while, because you need to change the idea (subconscious instruction), constantly thinking about it and eventually it will result in the desired action (turn the magnet of your life around to attract rather than repel the positive).

When two people want to move a boulder in a certain direction, they will both stand on the same side of the boulder and push so that it moves in the desired direction. However, when they are on opposite sides of the boulder, it will only moves to the extent that the one is stronger than the other.

This is what your conscious and subconscious minds do when they struggle with a conundrum, draining you of energy and you are constantly tired. When your mind(s) is cooperating, synchronized and focusing on the same goal, then things go smoothly. If they are opposing each other (resisting), we remain stuck. For example… when you consciously desire success and your sub-conscious mind is afraid of success (I do not want to be a failure), you create a mental “push-pull” situation and things will get stuck. No wonder we are constantly tired and drained of life energy.

Establish what you really and truly desire (as within so without) and what your goal (expectation) really is. When you resolve your inner conflict, you change your magnetic field, and the people around you must also change their magnetic field (attitude) or leave your magnetic field.

Most of us (due to procrastination) have at some time resist doing a task. We resist learning, writing a report, complete a project until it assumes critical proportions. Any task appears difficult in direct relation to our level of resistance. When, what you resist, persist in your life and drains you of energy, try to embrace what you do want, and start to transmit the relevant message.

Asking for something and when the package arrives, you do not want it any more, because some thing’s are accompanying the package that you do not want or desire. Remember, what you are wishing for, almost never appears in isolation, there is always a number of other things accompany that package. The rule of resistance also come into effect in such an instance, specially when you realize that what you expect is only part of the issue. It often happens that we would like, for example, to get a promotion, but we resist the additional working hours and the responsibility to acquire new skills or learning (training) to become more efficient.

The rule of resistance are evoked in the case of… wishing for something and once received, realize that it isn’t EXACTLY what you want. You were expecting a certain action, attitude, inclination or opportunity. What manifest, is not what you expect and instead of dealing with it and accommodate it to the best of your ability, you start to resist it.

For example… You want to improve yourself (undergo training), but you prefer that it should take place at a nice hotel with all expenses paid. When the opportunity do not fit your expectation, you resist the training as a whole and loose sight of the possible personal gains that you might acquire from this training opportunity.

 Be careful what you wish for, you might just receive it.