Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?

The Avoidance Stage of Change


In the stage of avoidance, you just don’t think about any changes taking place, even though it might be perfectly clear to other people around you. A perception (sometimes a firm belief) might prevail, that change only influence others, and that “I” have an obligations to change, is merely a huge misconception in their behalf. Or, you may briefly wish to change, but have no real intention nor any plans for sustaining such a change in future.

Quite often, in the avoidance stage, people tends to blames others for the changes taking place and the accompanied problems or “harmony disruptors“. In such cases, one tends to just plainly resists any changes and/or simply believes that you are helpless or powerless do anything about the change.

Avoidance can rear its ugly head at any time during a change project, because even “convinced” individuals may change their minds at any time. Especially when it seems that change obstacles are either to difficult to overcome or they believe that change efforts ain’t really worth it. Thus, avoidance may bring a smooth running change project to a grinding halt, at any time, even when everything was initially progressing quite well and “running” according to plan.