Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?

Behaviours & Actions


Stop bad habits such as… smoking, drinking, drugs, biting of nails, overeating or swearing.

Overcome behavioural problems such as… lying, stealing, deceiving, dominate, manipulate or laziness.

Learn, study or work more productively by gaining more self-control and procrastinate less.

Be more compassionate by being more caring, giving, empathic, sensitive or affectionate.

To be more, or less, socially outgoing.

Improve your friendships and/or family relationships.

Reduce excessive worries, obsessions and/or jealousies.

Guiding questions…

  • How did the behaviour get started in the first place?
  • Why has the behaviour continued?
  • What are the reasons, if any, for changing your present behaviour?
  • Is this behaviour generally applicable, or only in specific circumstances?
  • What kind of negative influences does the behaviour have on you?
  • What kind of positive influences does the behaviour have on you?
  • What type of actions, behaviour or habitual thoughts do you want to change or improve?

Using the answers to the above questions to describe the habit (i.e. behaviours & actions) that you intent to change as follows, the…

  1. Cue – what triggers the habit.
  2. Routine – the action or habit in motion.
  3. Reward – why we keep doing it, what to we gain from the habit.