Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?

Perceptions & Mind-set


Wanting to become more hopeful or optimistic with a less negative view of the world.

To be more tolerant of others, your own mistakes, more accepting of what is happening or accept the diversities of people.

To be more willing to try something different, become more brave or adventurous.

To reduce the negative impact of your own attitudes, expectations or views that often upsets you.

Learning to think straight and logically, or to stop deceiving yourself.

Acquiring and learning positive mental attitudes, some efficient self-suggestions, positive affirmations or a possible from of self-hypnosis.

To take more responsibility for your problems, their solutions and your life.

Developing a personal philosophy of life (i.e. valid value system) and learn how to live by it.

To increase your motivation, overcome your reluctance to change, work more purposefully and acquire meaning in your life.

Guiding questions…

Your mind-set represents your thoughts, attitudes, perceptions, priorities and values. The questions below determines – to some extent – the perspectives and attitudes (either positive or negative) with regards to the problem or issue you are presently experiencing…

  • How do you view the situation?
  • Do you think it is a fair or realistic point of view?
  • Why is it important to change or adapt to the present situation?
  • Are circumstances responsible for what is happening now?
  • Can you do something about it?
  • To what extent – in your opinion – do other people influence your actions and behaviours?
  • Do you regard a solution to the problem or issue as important? Why?
  • Which of your views and values are harmful and which will help to solve the problem?
  • How important do you regard your values? (e.g. questioning irrational ideas and present belief structures,¬† correcting expectations, determinism, building self-esteem, paradoxical intention, increasing motivation, values clarifications, gaining hope, developing a philosophy of life, learning to think¬†straight, helpful attitudes, honesty with yourself).