Successful people build each other up, they motivate, inspire and push each other. Unsuccessful people just hate, blame and complain.    Flowers only bloom when they are ready. People are the same way. You cannot rush or force them open, just because you think it's time. Be patient. - Timber Hawkeye    We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. - Albert Einstein    Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles that one has overcome while trying to succeed. - Bookert T. Washington    Be solution driven. Treat the disease, not the symptoms by targeting the source of the problem or issue.    In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... not through strength, but through persistence. - Buddha    Are you interested in changing, or are you committed to change?
May 172014

Many a times we are quite determined to bring about change in our life’s. But apart from thinking about it and one or two half-hearted efforts, we rarely succeed in bringing about lasting change. Why?

It is often much easier to initiate, than to address change and quite difficult to sustain change, because of…

  1. Guilt… You constantly worry whether you have done enough to develop, to support, to encourage, to build confidence, to empower and recognize achievements. If that’s truly the case, you’re right. You’ve got more work to do. Get going. BUT, if you have invested and invested again and again… and it’s still not working. It’s time to face that this change effort may not be the right fit. Stop feeling guilty. You need to do what’s right – not the right thing – for the greater good of all involved in the change project.
  2. Morale… Many people (i.e. change agents) are so worried about building a great change morale, that they actually destroy it.  If everything everyone does is just great then individuals who are really giving their all, start to wonder why they are doing it.
  3. Saving Face… You initiate the change.  Perhaps you even convinced others that this is the best thing to do.  If you’ve done everything  you can to make it work, and it still isn’t, it’s far better to admit that you were wrong or mistaken. Learn from your experience and move on. Don’t magnify one poor decision with another.
  4. Confidence… You’re scared.  You’re not sure how to approach the change situation.  Get some help or guidance.  Change is never is easy, but it does get easier to deal with as time goes by.
  5. Lack of Alternatives… We have a tendency to get stuck with one particular change idea in our minds and then refuse to “see“, recognize or even consider other possibilities that could work just as effectively. Thus…

Can you see the horse?